So before you inflict bodily harm on your guy, check out the most common reasons that guys lie. Then maybe (just maybe!) you’ll forgive him?
BECAUSE WE DON’T LIKE BEING WRONG
If there’s one thing every girl should know about guys, it’s that we’re wrong — a lot. We have egos, and we’ll stop at nothing to keep them intact!
BECAUSE WE DON’T WANT YOU TO YELL
Believe it or not, we generally don’t like arguing with people we care about (e.g., you). It’s much easier for us to say we fell asleep early than to admit we were at a friend’s house playing Halo all night. We’re hardwired to avoid conflict — it’s our way of keeping things hassle-free.
BECAUSE WE’RE AVOIDING HUMILIATION
When it comes down to it, we’re pretty fragile creatures. So if we feel like an idiot for some reason, we start making up stories. It’s a defense mechanism we use when we’re feeling hurt and/or embarrassed.
BECAUSE WE NEED OUR SPACE
As much as we like hanging out with you, there are times when we just need to be alone or with our guy friends. But since we don’t want to upset you or get into a two-hour discussion about why we don’t want to sit through The Notebook for the ninth time, we come up with reasons we “can’t.”
BECAUSE WE LIKE YOU!
When a guy’s getting to know you, he may think he needs to lie a little to get you to like him. We haven’t grasped the fact that people can like each other even without having the same taste in music. (You like Justin Timberlake? Wow, me too!) So later in the relationship, when we feel more comfortable with you and reveal that we actually can’t stand J.T., please don’t be offended. Be flattered. After all, we suffered through singing along to “SexyBack” all those times just for you! Now that we know you like us, we feel safe being 100 percent real.
No matter how small the lies are, if your boyfriend is a repeat offender, it’s not okay. Try talking to him about it. Tell him that with every little lie he tells, he loses your trust a little. And if your guy is blatantly lying to you about important things — say, seeing someone else or using drugs — then it’s time to reevaluate your situation.