In the right relationship the sun shines brighter, your smiles are bigger, and even doing mundane chores becomes more enjoyable. It’s good to have clear signs that you’re in the right relationship, and it’s also good to have tasks that you can work on to improve your relationship.
1. You spend time together doing things you both enjoy.
It’s great to do what he likes. It’s great to do what she likes. But what’s even better is to find things you both like, and to do them together.
2. You spend time apart, doing things you enjoy.
When you’re in the right relationship, your partner understands that there are things you want to do alone. Maybe he’s a gamer, maybe she loves Pinterest. We all need time to do our own things, and the right relationship is one in which both partners understand and appreciate that about each other.
3. You fight productively.
A productive fight is about understanding the other person, finding common ground, compromising, and respecting each other throughout the process. If you end a fight feeling like you’ve won, you’re doing it wrong.
4. You each have your own friends and share friends too.
When you’re in the right relationship, you find balance between your social circle, your partner’s, and your shared circle.
5. You maintain self-identity.
In the right relationship both partners are nurtured to continuously improve and develop their “self.”
6. Your friends and family like you together.
One of the easiest ways to know if you’re in the right relationship is to pay attention to the feedback you get from friends and family. Assuming your friends and family want what is best for you, a lot of negative feedback is a bad sign. That doesn’t mean everyone will be enthusiastic about your relationship, but the overall sense you get should be positive.
7. You are able to disagree respectfully.
The right relationship isn’t about everything being perfect, but about partners maintaining a high level of respect when things don’t go perfectly. You can disagree but there are no hurt feelings, no efforts to change the other person’s mind at all costs, nothing like that. We don’t need to agree on everything.
8. You share a passion for your future together.
In the right relationship both partners are enthusiastic about a future together. And while not everything lasts forever, partners who share a vision for what their future entails are in a much better position than partners who don’t, or worse, don’t even discuss the topic.
9. You’re attracted to your partner, mind, body, and spirit.
Sure, you’re attracted to them. That attraction is probably the first thing that motivated the pursuit of a relationship. You’re in the right relationship when you’re just as excited about the late night conversations as you are about what happens between the sheets.
10. You keep each other’s secrets.
You’re in the right relationship when you are impressed with how much your partner values protecting your secrets.
11. You enjoy doing even mundane tasks together.
Could you enjoy a day cleaning with your partner? If the answer is yes, you’re in the right relationship.
12. You are compatible sexually.
This probably goes without saying, but I’m going to say it anyway! You aren’t always going to be on the same level. Sometimes you’ll want more, sometimes she will. Sometimes you’ll feel adventurous, sometimes he will. But, generally speaking, you should be compatible with your sexual interests and desires, in quality, quantity, style, and all other characteristics. If you’re a 3–4 times a week kind of person and your partner considers once a week a chore, you might need to reconsider the longevity of your relationship.
13. You share financial goals.
Strong couples even share budgets and create financial challenges for themselves. If you have your finances in order, you’re probably in the right relationship.